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2006/3/30

<Roman holiday>, You cannot help being touched!

In the opening moments of the film, a Paramount News NEWS FLASH announces, with newsreel footage, the goodwill tour of a royal princess, Princess Ann (Audrey Hepburn), a member of the royal family of an unnamed European country. During her formal tour, she waves at the crowds who line the streets for parades, motorcades, and other ceremonial processions:

Paramount News brings you a special coverage of Princess Ann's visit to London, the first stop on her much-publicized, goodwill tour of European capitals. She gets a royal welcome from the British, as thousands cheer the gracious young member of one of Europe's oldest ruling families. After three days of continuous activity and a visit to Buckingham Palace, Ann flew to Amsterdam, where her Highness dedicated the new International Aid Building and christened an ocean liner. Then went to Paris, where she attended many official functions designed to cement trade relations between her country and the Western European nation. And so to Rome, the Eternal City, where the Princess' visit was marked by a spectacular military parade...The smiling young Princess showed no sign of the strain of the week's continuous public appearances. And at her country's Embassy that evening, a formal reception and ball in her honor was given by her country's Ambassador to Italy.

During her royal state visit to Rome, Italy, she is presented to the guests during the extravagant ball, escorted into the room wearing a beautiful gown and crown of jewels. Performing her expected diplomatic duties, she appropriately greets the Papal Nuncio, Monsignor Altomonto (Giacomo Penza), Sir Hugo Macy de Farmington (Eric Oulton), the Maharajah of Khanipur (Rapindranath Mitter) and Rajkumari (Princess Lilamani), Prince Istvan Barossy Nagyavaros (Cesare Viori) and many others, but the young foreign Princess reveals her weariness of the proceedings. Under her long gown, she wiggles and itches her foot and then embarrasses herself by losing her high heeled shoe. She retrieves it when she stands to dance with a steady procession of admirers and guests.

Her girlish naivete and modern-day leanings are expressed when she is tucked primly into her bed in an old-fashioned nightgown by her lady-in-waiting chaperone, Countess Vereberg (Margaret Rawlings):

Ann: I hate this nightgown. I hate all my nightgowns, and I hate all my underwear too.
Countess: My dear, you have lovely things.
Ann: But I'm not two hundred years old. Why can't I sleep in pajamas?
Countess: Pajamas!?
Ann: Just the top part. Did you know that there are people who sleep with absolutely nothing on at all?

Looking out her window, she catches a glimpse of how the other half lives, a scene of Roman nightlife. When she is brought warm milk and crackers before retiring, she scoffs: "Everything we do is so wholesome!" The review of her tightly-arranged royal schedule for the next day (including rules of decorum, how she will act and what she will wear) reveals ceremonial visits to a car factory, a food and agricultural inspection organization and an orphanage, followed by a press conference, lunch with the foreign ministry, and even more affairs of state later in the day. The Princess screams: "STOP!", hysterically exasperated and depressed by the constant control and regimentation of her life. As she is given a sedative by a doctor, she tells her guardians: "...I'll be calm and relaxed, I-I'll bow and I'll smile and improve trade relations and I'll..." In reality, she is determined to see Rome for herself and on her own terms.

To escape the endless tedium of the many ceremonial occasions, to find adventure and to experience life beyond the claustrophobic confines of her royal position - without royal control - she slips out of the palatial Embassy that night. Unseen, Ann climbs into the back of an open supply truck (Domenico Pizzatti - Rinfreschi -) that is allowed to leave the Embassy grounds. For the first time, unescorted and unchaperoned, she smiles as she watches her liberating passage through the Embassy's gates. When the truck stops, she jumps out and finds herself in the middle of Rome, becoming increasingly drowsy from the effects of the sleep-inducing sedative. She falls asleep on a low park wall.

On his walk home following a late-night card game which has impoverished him with his pals, street-smart American newspaperman Joe Bradley (Gregory Peck), one of the many reporters who was planning to interview the Princess the next day, walks by the sleeping beauty. She is singing to herself: "So happy." He finds it ironic that she is "well-read, well-dressed" and "snoozing away on a public street" like a drunk. Taking pity on her because she has no money ("Never carry money"), the protective journalist signals a taxi and they climb in the back seat. Perplexed that she sleepily responds that she lives "at the Coliseum," he directs the taxi to his own apartment and then realizes that she must spend the night there.

In an exquisite scene, he leads her up steps and ushers her into his apartment while muttering to himself: "I ought to have my head examined." Preparing to sleep at his place, she comments dizzingly about all the new experiences, while he instructs her on sleeping arrangements:

Ann: Can I sleep here?
Joe: Well, that's the general idea.
Ann: Can I have a silk nightgown with rosebuds on it?
Joe: I'm afraid you'll have to rough it tonight - in these. (He presents her with his own oversized pajamas.)
Ann: Pajamas!
Joe: Sorry honey, but I haven't worn a nightgown in years.
Ann: (regally) Will you help me get undressed, please?
Joe: (after hesitating a moment and being taken aback) Uh, OK. (He removes one small article of clothing - her necktie) There you are, you can handle the rest. (He pours himself a glass of wine and rapidly downs it.)
Ann: May I have some?
Joe: (firmly) No. Now look.
Ann: This is very unusual. I've never been alone with a man before - even with my dress on. (She begins unbuttoning and removing her blouse) With my dress off, it's most unusual. I don't seem to mind. (She gazes directly at him.) Do you?
Joe: (stony-faced) I think I'll go out for a cup of coffee. You'd better get to sleep. (She flops on his bed.) No, no, no. (He leads her toward the couch.) On this one.
Ann: How terribly nice.
Joe: Hey - these are pajamas. They're to sleep in. You're to climb into them, you understand?...Then you do your sleeping on the couch, see. Not on the bed, not on the chair, on the couch. Is that clear?
Ann: Do you know my favorite poem?
Joe: You already recited that for me.
Ann: "Arethusa rose from her couch of snows in the Acroceraunian mountains" - Keats.
Joe: Shelley.
Ann: Keats!
Joe: Now, you just keep your mind off the poetry and on the pajamas, and everything'll be all right, see.
Ann: It's Keats.
Joe: Now, I'll be - it's Shelley - I'll be back in about ten minutes.
Ann: Keats. (He approaches his front door and hides his wine bottle on the top of the mantelpiece.) You have my permission to withdraw.
Joe: Thank you very much...

When Joe returns to his small apartment about ten minutes later, he finds the princess in his own bed - not on the chair or couch as he had instructed. He rolls her off his bed onto the couch.

The princess' disappearance is classified as a "Top Crisis Secret" when it is discovered that the "direct heir to the throne" is missing at the Embassy. A diplomatic cover-up conceals the real facts: "A SPECIAL EMBASSY BULLETIN REPORTS THE SUDDEN ILLNESS OF HER ROYAL HIGHNESS THE PRINCESS ANN."

The next morning when he awakens, he has overslept past the scheduled 11:45 am interview with the princess. The Rome American newspaper reports:

Princess Ann Taken Ill; Press Interview Cancelled - Embassy Reports Princess Confined to Bed by Sudden Illness: Day's Schedule Cancelled

Joe frantically dresses and arrives late at the American News Service where he ineptly tells his boss Mr. Hennessey (Hartley Powers) that he has just left the interview with the princess - a paradoxically true statement, but a gross lie ("a gold-plated, triple-decked, star-spangled lie") in his superior's view:

Hennessey: In view of the fact that our Highness was taken violently ill at three o'clock this morning, put to bed with a high fever, and has ordered all her appointments for the day cancelled in toto...
Joe: That's certainly pretty hard to swallow.
Hennessey: In view of the fact that you just left her, of course.

Hennessey points out Princess Ann's picture printed in the paper: "It isn't Annie Oakley, Dorothy Lamour, or Madame Chiang Kai-shek. Take a good look at her. You might be interviewing her again some day." Joe immediately discovers that he has a major scoop in the works. After discovering the identity of the mysterious girl in his apartment, he hopes to get an exclusive story that will help him with his career advancement that would take him back to the States:

Joe: How much would a real interview with this dame be worth?
Hennessey: Are you referring to Her Highness?
Joe: I'm not referring to Annie Oakley, Dorothy Lamour, or Madame ... How much?
Hennessey: What do you care? You've got about as much chance...
Joe: I know, but if I did? How much would it be worth?
Hennessey: Oh, just a plain talk on world issues, it would probably be worth two hundred and fifty. Her views on clothes, of course, would be worth a lot more, maybe a thousand...dollars.
Joe: I'm talking about her views on everything!...The private and secret longings of a Princess. Her innermost thoughts as revealed to your own correspondent in a private, personal, exclusive interview. (His boss' mouth drops, awe-struck by the thought) Can't use it, huh? I didn't think you'd like it.
Hennessey: Come here! Love angle too, I suppose.
Joe: Practically all love angle.
Hennessey: With pictures.
Joe: Could be. How much?
Hennessey: That particular story will be worth five grand to any news service....
Joe: ...You said five grand? I want you to shake on that.

 

Back at his apartment, Ann finally awakens at about 1:30 in the afternoon, but she is thoroughly disoriented:

Ann: Would you be so kind as to tell me where I am?
Joe: Well, this is what is laughingly known as my apartment.
Ann: Did you bring me here by force?
Joe: No, no. Quite the contrary.
Ann: Have I been here all night, alone?
Joe: If you don't count me, yes.
Ann: So I've spent the night here - with you?
Joe: Well now, I-I don't know that I'd use those words exactly, but uh, from a certain angle, yes.
Ann: (beaming with a smile) How do you do? (She extends her hand for a handshake)
Joe: How do you do?
Ann: And you are - ?
Joe: Bradley, Joe Bradley.
Ann: Delighted.
Joe: You don't know how delighted I am to meet you.
Ann: You may sit down.
Joe: (sitting on the bed) Thank you very much. What's your name?
Ann: You may call me Anya.

The newspaper reporter pretends ignorance of her identity, initially having a strictly mercenary interest in the Princess. While she takes a bath, he phones his carefree, bearded photographer friend Irving Radovich (Eddie Albert), hinting: "It's front-page stuff. That's all I can tell ya. It might be political or it might be a sensational scam. I'm not sure which. But it's a big story, and it's gotta have pictures."

Everything is exciting for Ann: "It must be fun to live in a place like this." But she feels compelled to leave and wander around. After lending her a little money, he follows her through the crowded streets and marketplace filled with small motorcycles, bicycles, vendors, and pedestrians. She walks the streets of Rome incognito, experiencing things as an ordinary commoner and doing things exactly the way she wants to. At a salon, she has her hair drastically cut shorter after ordering the Italian haircutter (Paolo Carlini): "All off." Afterwards, she tells the flirtatious barbiere who cropped her hair to make her unrecognizable: "It's just what I wanted."

She begins her day of freedom by ordering a gelati cone at a roadside stand and accepting a single flower from a flower vendor. Joe accidentally runs into her to keep in contact with her and get the inside information for his story. She confesses her predicament of playing hookey from school and her desire to "live dangerously":

Ann: I ran away last night, from school.
Joe: Oh, what was the matter? Trouble with the teacher?
Ann: No, nothing like that.
Joe: Well, you don't just run away from school for nothing.
Ann: It was only meant to be for an hour or two. They gave me something last night to make me sleep.
Joe: Oh, I see.
Ann: Now, I'd better get a taxi and go back.
Joe: Well look, before you do, why don't you take a little time for yourself?
Ann: Maybe another hour.
Joe: Live dangerously. Take the whole day.
Ann: I could do some of the things I've always wanted to.
Joe: Like what?
Ann: Oh, you can't imagine. I-I'd do just whatever I liked all day long.
Joe: You mean things like having your hair cut, eating gelati...
Ann: Yes, and I'd sit at a sidewalk cafe and look in shop windows. Walk in the rain, have fun and maybe some excitement. Doesn't seem much to you, does it?

Joe proposes to spend the day with her and experience everything she has always wanted to:

Joe: Tell you what. Why don't we do all those things, together?
Ann: But don't you have to work?
Joe: Work? No. Today's gonna be a holiday.
Ann: But you want to do a lot of silly things?
Joe: (He takes her hand) ...First wish? One sidewalk cafe, comin' right up. I know just the place. Rocca's.

At the cafe, Ann orders costly champagne for lunch, and then describes, in disguised terms, her father's fortieth anniversary of the day he got his job:

Ann: Well, mostly you might call it public relations.
Joe: Oh, well, that's hard work.
Ann: Yes. I wouldn't care for it.
Joe: Does he?
Ann: I heard him complain about it.
Joe: Why doesn't he quit?
Ann: Oh, people in that line of work almost never do quit, unless it's actually unhealthy for them to continue.

To conceal his own identity to her, Joe describes his own line of work:

Ann: What is your work?
Joe: Oh, I'm, ah, in the selling game.
Ann: Really? How interesting. What do you sell?
Joe: Fertilizer. Chemicals. You know, chemicals. Stuff like that.

 

When Irving arrives, he repeatedly tries to mention that Ann is a "ringer" for the Princess, but Joe blocks him by kicking him under the table, dumping a drink in his lap, and finally by knocking his chair over. When Joe gets Irving away for a few moments, he tells his photographer friend about Anya Smith's ("Smitty's") real identity and the promise of five grand (including a percentage of the take if there are pictures): "She doesn't know who I am or what I do. Look Irving, this is my story. I dug it up. I've got to protect it...Your tintypes are gonna make this little epic twice as valuable...You're in for twenty-five percent of the take." Then, he asks his friend to loan him thirty thousand lira ("that's fifty bucks") so that he can entertain the Princess for the rest of the day.

Ann smokes her "very first" cigarette, while Irving surreptitiously takes pictures of her with his hidden-camera cigarette lighter. Meanwhile, "plain-clothes" men are retained to search the city for the missing princess, as Joe, Ann, and Irving begin their carefree tour of the city on a "fun schedule." She rides on the back of Joe's motorcycle to see the famous sights, including the ruins of the Coliseum. After Ann recklessly drives them through the streets, they are arrested by the polizia but released after Joe's clever alibi: "Going to church to get married on a scooter." Ann brags about her own deceitfulness:

Ann: I'm a good liar too, aren't I, Mr. Bradley?
Joe: The best I ever met.

In a memorable scene, Joe shows the Princess a sculpture which he names 'The Mouth of Truth.' He tests the legend with her:

Joe: The Mouth of Truth. Legend is that if you're given to lying, you put your hand in there, it'll be bitten off.
Ann: Oh, what a hard idea.
Joe: Let's see you do it.
Ann: (she nervously moves her hand toward the mouth, but then pulls back) Let's see you do it!

Joe scares the Princess into believing he has lost his hand inside the sculpture's mouth. Later during her guided tour, they visit a wall covered with inscriptions:

Joe: Each one represents a wish fulfilled. It all started during the war. There was an air raid, right out here. A man with his four children was caught in the street. They ran over against the wall, right there, for shelter and prayed for safety. Bombs fell very close, but no one was hurt. Later on, the man came back and put up the first of these tablets. Since then, it's become a sort of a shirine. People come and whenever their wishes are granted, they put up another one of these little plaques.
Ann: Lovely story.
Joe: Read some of the inscriptions. (Ann moves closer toward the wall) Make a wish? (Ann nods). Tell the doctor?
Ann: (declining) Anyway, the chances of it being granted are very slight.

Ann suggests going dancing that evening on a barge down by Sant' Angelo on the Tiber River, where she was invited to meet the salon barber:

Ann: At midnight, I'll turn into a pumpkin and drive away in my glass slipper.
Joe: And that will be the end of the fairy tale.

When Irving leaves to develop the pictures he has been snapping all day, Joe and Ann wind up dancing on the barge that night. While on the barge, some of the men dispatched to find the Princess spot her. Bradley quickly falls in love with the Princess' naivete, radiance and beauty, and begins to question his original mercenary interest in her:

Ann We spent the whole day doing things I've always wanted to. Why?
Joe: I don't know. It seemed the thing to do.
Ann: I never heard of anybody so kind.
Joe: It wasn't any trouble.
Ann: Also, completely unselfish.

After dancing with Mario Delani, the barber who cut her hair, one of the royal agents takes hold of Ann and proceeds to drag her to a waiting car. During the ensuing melee, Joe and Irving struggle to prevent Ann from being taken away. Ann hits the royal agents over the head with beer bottles and then with a guitar taken from one of the band members. To avoid capture, both Joe and Ann jump in the water and swim for the shore. On dry land, they congratulate themselves on their successful escape and then kiss each other - they both find themselves desperately falling in love.

Back at Joe's apartment, after changing into drier clothes, he confesses that he has no kitchen and always eats out, pointedly thinking: "Life isn't always what one likes, is it?" After their long day together, she admits having had a tiring, but "wonderful day." A radio news broadcast informs them that the Princess' 'illness' is causing "alarm and anxiety among the people in her country." Although they dream of becoming closer to each other, Ann also knows she will inevitably have to part from him and return to her other life and duties:

Ann: I'm a good cook. I could earn my living at it. I can sew too and clean a house and iron. I learned to do all those things. I just haven't had the chance to do it for anyone.
Joe: Well, looks like I'll have to move. I'll get myself a place with a kitchen.
Ann: Yes. (after a long pause) I will have to go now. (They hug each other)
Joe: There's something that I want to tell you.
Ann: No please. Nothing. I must go and get dressed.

Joe drives her back to a street corner within sight of the imposing, imprisoning gates of the Embassy. In a memorable goodbye scene, she gives him difficult-to-hear directions:

Ann: I have to leave you now. I'm going to that corner there and turn. You must stay in the car and drive away. Promise not to watch me go beyond the corner. Just drive away and leave me as I leave you.
Joe: All right.
Ann: I don't know how to say goodbye. I can't think of any words.
Joe: Don't try. (They sadly hug and kiss each other for the last time)

The Princess leaves the car and he watches her disappear down a dark, empty little street as she runs back to the Embassy, returning to her cloistered and protected world.

The returning Princess is questioned about her long, twenty four hour absence, but she offers no explanation other than: "I was indisposed. I am better." With a strong, self-confident voice, she tells the Ambassador (Harcourt Williams) that she realizes her royal duties (and rights) more clearly:

Your Excellency, I trust you will not find it necessary to use that word again. Were I not completely aware of my duty to my family and my country, I would not have come back tonight, or indeed ever again.

She dismisses them, and then with a commanding presence, reflecting her capability as a future ruler, orders: "No milk and crackers. That will be all, thank you, Countess."

Because of his affection for Ann, Joe decides to give up his 'exclusive' story about the Princess and not violate her privacy or exploit her. Hennessey, who "knows too much" thinks Joe is playing "hard to get" to raise the price of his story: "A deal's a deal. Now, come on, come on, come on, where is that story?" Joe refuses to divulge his story scoop: "I have no story." And then he tells Irving who has excitedly brought the developed photographs: "In regard to the story that goes with these (the pictures), there is no story...I mean that as far as I'm concerned."

Nonetheless, Joe is amused by the pictures which show Ann with her first cigarette, her experience with the Mouth of Truth, the inscription "wall where wishes come true," their seizure at the police station ("Police inspects Princess"), dancing on the barge, and the climactic shot of Ann hitting one of the secret service over the head with a guitar ("Crowned Head"). Irving wishes to convince his friend that his paparazzi photos should be used: "She's fair game Joe. It's always open season on Princesses. You must be out of your mind."

In the film's bittersweet, moving ending, in the day's press corps interview, she notices Joe and Irving in the front of the other reporters. In front of the assembled reporters, she answers the first few political questions with double meanings directed particularly toward Joe, especially one question about the outlook for friendship among nations:

Ann: I have every faith in it as I have faith in relations between people.
Joe: May I say, speaking for my own press service, we believe that your Highness' faith will not be unjustified.
Ann: I am so glad to hear you say it.

She is asked by another reporter which city in her tour she enjoyed most. The princess opposes her advisors who want her to give equal weight to every city on the tour. They coach her by whispering the acceptable answer to her. She abruptly changes her answer mid-stream and obliquely tells them all (and Joe) that she will never forget Rome (or him), expressing her own personal prerogative as a Princess:

Each in its own way was unforgettable. It would be difficult to...Rome, by all means, Rome. I will cherish my visit here in memory as long as I live.

When photographs are allowed to be taken during the session, Irving steps forward and surprises the Princess by revealing that his cigarette lighter is really a miniature camera. She steps forward to personally meet and shake hands with members of the press corps. Irving presents the Princess with some "commemorative photos" of her visit to Rome. She views the one of her smashing a guitar over an agent's head, smiles discreetly, and then formally thanks Irving: "Thank you so very much." And then when Joe and Ann meet, she can only be polite and impersonal: "So happy Mr. Bradley." Princess Ann cannot reveal the secret of her day with both of them.

As she gives a final goodbye, she slowly turns toward the audience, gives a wide smile toward everyone (and then directly toward Joe), holds the tear-inducing gaze, and then departs. After the press corps has left, Joe stares at the door through which she left, never to see her again. With echoing footsteps, he slowly walks out of the room - the camera with a backward-moving tracking shot follows his retreat from the girl he loves. He turns one last time at the end of the hall to sadly look back before leaving.
2006/3/25

<Waterloo Bridge>, 魂断蓝桥

The film starts with Roy's flashback memory years later on the bridge of her words: "I loved you...I've never loved anyone else...I never shall" as the sound of "Auld Lang Syne" rises and he fingers her good-luck charm!
Roy meets Myra by accident during an air raid and in that brief instant he believes he is in love. He goes to the ballet where she is a dancer and asks her to join him for dinner. Her ballet instructor, Madame Olga, played by Maria Ouspenskaya, refuses to let her girls become involved and tells Myra to refuse his attentions. The part of the Madame is small but very effective, with an outstanding performance by Maria. Kitty (Virginia Field) stops Roy before he leaves to tell him Myra will meet him at the Candlelight Club. They dine, and at the end of the evening they dance to Auld Lang Syne, as the musicians snuff the candles one by one, until the room is darkened and Roy gently kisses Myra. They part at the door of Myra’s, and Roy says “please leave me first”. ( As I did all the times!)
The next day morning, she spots him standing in the rain, outside her flat, and runs to him, with a wonderful breathlessness. They kiss, and he tells her they are to be married. He is so full of innocent bliss, and she is so enamored of him, you can feel their enthusiasm through the screen. Such is the story, but when he has to leave suddenly and they can't get married right then, she tries to go to him at the station, but just catches a glimpse of him on the train. He is gone and the Madame fires her and her friend Kitty who denounces her for ruining Myra's blissful day. They come upon hard times, and Kitty turns to a life of prostitution. Virginia Field is great as the friend with an Oscar caliber performance.
When Myra hears from Roy that his Mother will be coming to meet her she goes to a tea room and while waiting for her, reads in the paper that Roy is presumed dead. She is so distraught that when the Mother finally arrives, very late, she seems strange and incoherent to her. The mother played by Lucile Watson, is not such a wonderful person, who is quite stuffy and sees only what she wants and rejects Myra without even trying to ask what is wrong.
From then on it is downhill. Myra thinking Roy dead, goes to prostitution to live, until one day at Waterloo Station, looking for a date, she sees Roy in the crowd. They embrace, and he is still so in love that he doesn't even notice how she looks. She tells Kitty she is going with him to the family estate and they are to be married.
The Mother strangely welcomes her, and they have a party where Roy introduces her to the family, and they dance to the same song. Realizing that she might ruin him she tells his mother that there is no way they can wed, because of her past. She leaves, he follows, and even after he finds out what she has done, he still loves her, but she has made the decision to kill herself to save him from himself. The token, a lucky piece that they have shared is all we see in the street after she throws herself into the path of a military truck.
The opening and ending scenes of Roy remembering Myra while he touches the small lucky piece, are sad and poignant, and you may cry for a love so pure, and so unfinished, you wish it had ended differently. It was Taylor’s favorite film and also was Ms. Leigh's favorite, beautiful, stunning love story. A classic that never gets old, even 66 years after its release.

2006/3/7

可以随时牵手,但不要随便分手

你发觉到了吗?

爱的感觉,总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜,

总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担,

你终於不再孤单了,至少有一个人想著你、

恋著你,不论做什么事情,

只要能一起,就是好的,

但是慢慢的,随著彼此的认识愈深,

你开始发现了对方的缺点,

於是问题一个接著一个发生,

你开始烦、累,甚至想要逃避,

有人说爱情就像在捡石头,

总想捡到一个适合自己的,

但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢?

她适合你,那你又适合她吗?

 

其实,爱情就像磨石子一样,

或许刚捡到的时候,你不是那么的满意,

但是记住人是有弹性的,

很多事情是可以改变的,

只要你有心、有勇气,

与其到处去捡未知的石头,

还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮,你开始磨了吗?

 

很多人以为是因为感情淡了,

所以人才会变得懒惰。

错!

其实是人先被惰性征服,

所以感情才会变淡的。

在某个聚餐的场合,

有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好,

这时候有个中年男人忽然说「十年前,当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候,

她说要吃十只虾,我就剥二十只给她!

现在,如果她要我帮她剥虾壳,开玩笑!我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了,还剥虾壳咧!

 

听到了吗?明白了吗?

难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱,

却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。

因为,婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。

如果每个人都

懒得讲话、

懒得倾听、

懒得制造惊喜、

懒得温柔体贴,

那么夫妻或是情人之间,

又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢?

所以请记住:

有活力的爱情,

是需要适度殷勤灌溉的,

谈恋爱,更是不可以偷懒的喔!

 

有一对情侣,相约下班後去用餐、逛街,

可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了,

当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟,

他的男朋友很不高兴的说:

「你每次都这样,现在我甚么心情也没了,

我以後再也不会等你了!

刹那间,女孩终於决堤崩溃了,

她心里在想:或许,他们再也没有未来了

同样的在同一个地点,另一对情侣也面临同样的处境;

女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头,

他的男朋友说:「我想你一定忙坏了吧9

接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水,并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上,

此刻,女孩流泪了

但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。

你体会到了吗?

其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间!

 

爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时,

很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了!

懂了吗?

当有个人爱上你,而你也觉得他不错。

那并不代表你会选择他。

我们总说:「我要找一个自己很爱很爱的人,才会谈恋爱。」

但是当对方问你,怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候,

你却无法回答他,因为你自己也不知道。

没错,我们总是以为,我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。

可是後来,当我们猛然回首,我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。

假如从来没有开始,你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢?

其实,很爱很爱的感觉,是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。

或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣,

但是你有没有想过『在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了,只是你没发

觉而已呢?』

所以,还是仔细看看身边的人吧!他或许已经等你很久喽!

 

当你爱一个人的时候,爱到八分绝对刚刚好。

所有的期待和希望都只有七八分;剩下两三分用来爱自己。

如果你还继续爱得更多,很可能会给对方沉重的压力,让彼此喘不过气来,

完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。

所以请记住,

喝酒不要超过六分醉,

吃饭不要超过七分饱,

爱一个人不要超过八分

那天朋友问我:「到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢?」

我笑著跟他说:「其实每个人的爱情观都不一样,说对了叫开导,但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了!

 

如果你也正在为爱迷惘,或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示:

爱一个人,要了解,也要开解;

要道歉,也要道谢;

要认错,也要改错;

要体贴,也要体谅;

是接受,而不是忍受;

是宽容,而不是纵容;

是支持,而不是支配;

是慰问,而不是质问;

是倾诉,而不是控诉;

是难忘,而不是遗忘;

是彼此交流,而不是凡事交代;

是为对方默默祈求,

而不是向对方诸多要求;

可以浪漫,但不要浪费;

可以随时牵手,

但不要随便分手。

2006/3/1

Golden Rules of China, summarized by a foreigner

   1. Everything is possible.
   2. Nothing is easy.
   3. Western business logic does not apply.
   4. It is a fun project if there is no deadline.
   5. You must persist; things will come your way eventually.
   6. Patience is the essence of success.
   7. "You don't know China" means they disagree.
   8. "New regulation" means they found a new way to avoid doing something.
   9. "Internal regulation" means they are mad at you.
   10. "Basically no problem" means BIG problem.
   11. When you are optimistic, think about Rule #2.
   12. When you are discouraged, think about Rule #1.